Nicole and I met and it was very quickly that I knew this was the woman I was going to marry. Her warm disposition and huge smile really lights up rooms- she is sunshine. She is kind, caring, nurturing, inquisitive, funny, smart and creative. She is also silly which is evidenced by the many selfies she takes with funny faces!
She is passionate about her work as a child therapist and a strong believer of social justice. Everyone who has met Nicole automatically is drawn to her- She has this incredible energy and I am in awe of her natural ability to connect with others. Nicole has friends that have spanned decades.
Nicole is a born caregiver. She has a master’s degree in working with children; she has dedicated all her time and energy to helping others. I see the relationships she has formed with our many nieces and her students at school.
Nicole deserves to be a Mother-she has shown so much strength and perseverance throughout our journey to become parents. Nicole does not give up. Ever. I know she will fight for our future child to have all their needs and wants met. She is determined, passionate and dedicated. She is one of the most extraordinary people I have ever met.
I was raised by my Mom and Dad in the suburbs. I was my parent’s only child and I have 3 half sisters Eileen, Louise and Robin. My family is big and close and we spent time together often.
Either on my father's boat, swimming in our backyard pool or having big meals together. I was super close with my father and spoke to him about everything. I went to summer camp in the summers and my dad typed me long letters daily giving me all the news so I never felt I was missing out (I still have them).
My dad was a retired business executive who spoke 12 languages! He was so cultured and had all of these stories of his travels throughout the world that almost doesn't seem real. He taught me about how large the world was and instilled in me the desire to always learn more and explore the world.
Life Growing up –Michael
Our favorite summer memory is spending time with them at the beach- collecting shells, jumping in the waves and building sand castles. They love practicing soccer in the backyard and having private cooking rest of the summer the house is always full. Family and friends are always invited.
My mom works as a social worker with individuals who have been diagnosed with cancer. Since I was a child we would go to local stores and get donations of food to bring to shelters. I would also go with her to the hospital to speak with sick patients and nursing homes to have conversations with people who may not have had family. You see my parents; they both grew up very differently than me. My mom with 5 siblings in a one- bedroom apartment and my dad had to drop out of high school in order to work to support his sick father and family.
Christmas & Thanksgiving Celebrations
Two holidays that are our favorites are thanksgiving and Christmas. Mike’s Aunt Nancy and Uncle Warren host a HUGE thanksgiving at their home. Every part of everyone's family is invited- cousins, sisters, in laws you name it! The ages of people in attendance are babies as small as a few months old to Great Grandpa Paul in his 90’s! There is food to feed an army always written on a menu that looks more like a typed book and memories that won't be forgotten. Nicole's favorite is Mike's grandmother's recipe for stuffing! Everyone goes around the table(s) and says something they are thankful for- it's the cutest to hear from our nieces and nephews who usually are thankful for a new toy they just got. In addition to our family’s Thanksgiving feast, we look forward to taking your child to the annual Thanksgiving Day parade in NYC. This was a tradition for Michael’s family growing up. Being able to see the giant cartoon floats through the lens of an innocent child is one of the most magical experiences. Mike remembers the characters feeling like they came to life. The energy of the other New Yorkers watching made this a long lasting memory for him and he wants to pass this along to your child.
One of them plays competitive soccer so we go on Sunday afternoons when we can. We go for picnics in the park, movies, the library, for manicures and to museums around our city -they have come to school with Nicole. They can't wait for Uncle Mike and Aunt Nicole to have a new baby cousin and we can't wait to enjoy activities like these with your child.
Good times with our cousins, aunts & uncles and nieces. It's a tradition we all look forward to where everyone is invited. Including all the family dogs! Similar to our nieces and nephews, we plan to expose your child to many different things but encourage them to pursue any hobbies and interest’s that he/ she has.
Since we met we knew we wanted to become parents. After many heartbreaking losses we found out we are unable to have a child naturally, but this challenge has not diminished our desire to start a family. We have so much love to give and want to make our family complete. We feel it is a privilege and a gift from god to be able to raise a child. We believe that we will give our all to being parents and your child life and home full of happiness and love. We welcome the opportunity to parent and give our child support, encouragement, the gift of education, culture, travel and always be good role models. There is nothing that we both value more than family. We have had many wonderful experiences in life both individually and as a couple. We have worked for many years and feel we are mature and responsible both emotionally and financially. There is nothing we want more than to open up our world your child and we are excited about this new phase in our journey together
We hope that in reading this book and looking at the special times we have shared gives you a greater sense of who we are. We know that if we are fortunate to adopt, we will love this baby unconditionally. It is our intention to express to you that our marriage is based on trust, love, support, encouragement and honesty. Our family will grow with those same values.
We are honored that you have considered us as adoptive parents. We would really like to meet you. We want to hear more about who you are and your hopes and dreams for your child. We are available and ready to talk.
If you have questions about the legal process or us you can also contact our adoption attorney, who is helping us along the way. She has been working with birth and adoptive families for many years. She is really a kind person who is easy to talk to.
Again, thank you for reading about us.
We want you to know that whatever decision you make, we wish you peace and happiness.
All our best,
Nicole & Michael
Nicole is the most caring child therapist- helping children and families for the last two decades around challenges in their worlds. We have now been together for a decade and married for 8 years.
Our Extended Family Is A Big Part Of Our Daily Life
On Nicole’s side of the family we also have 6 more nieces and nephews who affectionately call us Aunt Nicky and Uncle Mikey. We see those nieces and nephews often as we have a family tradition to throw “ Cousins parties” a couple of times a year. A different family member hosts a party where all the cousins and siblings get together- some examples of cousins parties in the past were holiday, pool, paint and cooking parties.
We are Nicole and Michael. Thank you for taking the time to read about us. But before you do, it feels so important that we acknowledge you. It is not possible for us to put ourselves into your shoes. There must be so many feelings and emotions coming up for you right now. But there are some words that come to our mind to describe you (without us ever meeting!). These words are brave, strong, self-less, loving and oh so courageous! The fact that you are considering making an adoption plan for your child shows you character strengths and the enormous amount of love you have for your baby. Thank you so much for reading this and even considering us to be potential adoptive parents of your child. We love children and both of us have always dreamed about being parents. We are not able to have a child on our own and would love to adopt more than anything else in this world. We hope that once you read and see more about us it will help you to make a decision.
We met 10 years ago on a cold winter day in New York City. We had some friends in common through Michael's college and saw pictures of each other but had never met in person. Prior to our meeting we spoke on the phone for 24 hours straight! We spoke about our childhoods, hopes and dreams, our careers, family, friends and things we found funny. There was a lot of laughing!
Life Growing Up: Nicole
Adoring, Happily Married, Financially Secure Couple Yearn To Be Devoted Parents
Michael, Mike, Mikey - He forever lives his life with integrity and humility. He does the right thing when nobody's watching. He never shows off, thinks or acts like he is better than anyone and shows everyone he meets the utmost respect. He is authentic- what you see is what you get, generous and fiercely loyal. He is quiet yet always listening which is evidenced by him always remembering the details. He is strong and tough but also soft and loving. He is committed and does everything with his 100 percent- he doesn't cut corners and make sure he always does things the best they can be done whether it's painting a deck, building a 1000 piece puzzle or cooking a meal.
Christmas is spent with Nicole's family-Christmas Eve is always made by our brother-in- law Louis who Italian and he makes it a night of the feast of the 7 fishes. We start off with all the kids opening gifts at the tree. Usually there are 30 of us - Paper everywhere and hugs all around. We then sit down for a 3-hour meal with seafood salad; homemade pastas he even makes fried shrimp in the garage and Nicole's favorite Great Grandma Rose’s marinated mushrooms! During the holiday season we go to see the giant tree in the city. NY is decorated like a fairy tale in the winter and it is so much fun to go ice-skating and drink hot cocoa on a cold winter's day. After viewing all of the decorations in the store windows. It is a real winter wonderland experience and watching kids take this in with a gleam in their eyes really makes you feel like dreams can come true.
Nicole’s thoughts on Mike:
Summer is for sure our favorite time of the year. We recently purchased a home in a small beach town. We have a pool in the backyard and the beautiful beach down the street. Nicole is off all summer long so she lives in our beach home for over two months and Michael takes his vacation time then as well. Mike’s brother’s kids come to stay for a week.
They didn't have it easy and always taught me about privilege and the importance of service in my own community. My parents instilled in me the importance of education, diversity and the joy of learning from one another's cultures. I would never be where I am now without my parents’ guidance and role modeling and I thank them endlessly.
8 years ago in March, we officially merged our families together. We had everyone we loved in one room. Our families and friends from the local and far flew in. We got married in a country club in Nicole’s hometown. The flowers were white and orange (Nicole's favorite color), Mike's mom crocheted gifts for everyone. It was the most incredible night with a ten piece band playing and all of our friends and family gathered together dancing the night away.
Mike's thoughts on Nicole:
Family time is the best time with our nieces at the beach!
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We are lucky enough to have a home in the city as well as a summer home at the beach a couple of hours away. Both of our homes are in ideal communities to raise children in safe, family oriented and amazing school options as well as exposure to culture, the arts and some of nature's greatest beauty at the beach. We both work hard at our jobs as a social worker and chef but we also enjoy and embrace our down time together. When we are not working you can usually find us completing projects around the house, taking road trips to the mountains or to our beach, going for dinner with friends and family or hosting a game night at our house- we look forward to sharing some of these activities with your child.
We have a gray cat named Earl who has lived with us since we brought him home 5 years ago. He has his own wardrobe and a room full of toys. He is truly part of our family.
To me he is brilliant; graduated top of his class in high school and college always reading and learning and teaching me things I never knew he becomes the expert on anything we are embarking on and is diligent and responsible. He is a creative and talented chef who had the courage to leave a high paying corporate job to follow his dreams. He worked for countless hours in the top restaurants only to be able to do what he does now. He does his work with pride and dedication. He is an athlete that has ridden in bike marathons, played college soccer and won weightlifting competitions. Speaking of soccer, he is so passionate he has gone to 4 world cups all around the world! He surprises me when I least expect it: with a treasure hunt in the house, a special dinner or tickets to my favorite childhood Broadway show- Annie! He drops everything for me and for our family because that is what is important to him. We have gone through some really heartbreaking times together when we first tried to build our family but Michael was there holding my hand the whole way. Our wedding song was “ True Companion” by Marc Cohn and to me Michael is just that.
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At the same time my parents surprised us with the news that they were pregnant again. Jonathan was born when I was 14. With his birth my parents expanded our home and my grandparents came to live with us. Similar to our time in the city we were surrounded by family again.
After high school I went to University and studied in a business program. I was in a fraternity in college where I made friends that continue to be a huge part of my life. One of my college roommates, Joey, even lives down the street now.
I worked in corporate America as a project manager traveling around the world and overseeing staff for years before I decided that I wanted to pursue my passion of cooking. At age 34 I decided to do just that- on weekends I went to culinary school. Once I completed my culinary training I left corporate America to work in restaurants. I am lucky to have been trained in some of the top rated restaurants and have met some gifted and talented chefs along the way. I currently work as a personal chef. This job allows me flexibility in schedule, opportunities for Nicole and I to travel to beautiful destinations as well as financial security. When I am not working I enjoy bike riding, soccer, projects around my homes, making puzzles and spending time with our loved ones.
Nicole was home sick with a cold and Michael had a day off. All Nicole could talk about was a homemade chicken soup that her father Murray would give her as a child when she was sick. She reminisced about that soup throughout the conversation. Fast-forward a few days later to that cold night in January when we met in person. Mike was standing outside with a vat of homemade chicken soup with a red bow on top- he spent the whole day making it! At that moment Nicole knew this was a caring, hard working guy and also an excellent listener and cook!
We went out for dessert and coffee and continued another long never-ending conversation that lasted for hours. There was a moment on that date that stuck out to Michael about Nicole’s character. As we said earlier we talked so long that the cafe was closing. We were one of two tables that were lingering and there was a little girl a few tables away sitting by herself playing. We came to realize that she was the child of someone who worked in the kitchen. Nicole invited her over (with her parents permission) and she sat down and drew a picture with her. Mike couldn't help but notice how much attention Nicole was showing to this girl's art, how she commented on the most specific details to highlight the child's strengths and how the child beamed with pride and was gravitated to Nicole. Well, this was a first on a first date for both Nicole and Michael: Soup and a child to do art with! But when the night was over they both knew that that was the start of something special. Throughout that time we have continued to love, nurture and support one another in similar ways. Mike is a successful chef - showing his love though the art of creating healthy and nutritious food.
Kids jumping on rafts in the pool, playing marco-polo, having swimming races and chicken fights, bbqing fresh fish that was caught locally or food from the farm. We go to the beach daily watching sunrises, swim and watching the sunset. It feels like a revolving door and a two-month period of pure joy with ocean breezes and so much love and we look forward to this time all year long.
We also enjoy taking vacations as a family. Usually we visit the Caribbean at least 2 times a year. We love the Caribbean for its beautiful aqua oceans and laid-back feel. In addition to the Caribbean, Nicole’s parents have a second home on the beach in Florida so we are lucky enough to get to go there as well. Our Aunt Marie and Uncle Eric also live nearby to Nicole’s parents home. So together with their kids we enjoy boat rides, beach visits, card playing and family time. We believe that time in the sun spent with people you love is such an important part of self care and does good for the soul.
Michael’s brother Kenny lives a few blocks away from us. So we spend a bunch of time with his daughters. Our nieces are our godchildren and we enjoy them so much. They love having sleepovers with us- usually a sleepover includes making taco night together, doing an arts and crafts project (we have made slime, collages, paintings and ceramics) and usually ends with a movie night.
I was born in the city and lived in a two family home owned by my Aunt & Uncle. My aunt and uncle lived there with their two children Adrienne and Ronald who are around my age. I lived with my parents and brother Kenny on a different floor. My Mother, Sandra was a school librarian and my father Peter ran a factory. The four of us cousins- Adrienne, Ronnie, Ken and myself were like siblings. Playing games, joking around and having a great time together. It was a special experience to be able to grow up in the same home as my cousins and aunt and uncle.
My Father was raised in Hungary so the traditional cooking from his roots was always on the menu. Each summer we would pack up the car and spend our summers upstate in the mountains at a bungalow colony that my family owned. There were many joyous memories made there: camp, lakes, swimming, boating, fishing and camping. When I was 11 my parents and I moved to the same town to where we went each summer. I got to enjoy the country life full time. My brother and I were big into soccer. We both played on travel teams and were consumed with the sport. My father was at every single game and I have many memories of this time in our lives.